Wanting vs. Willingness

How often do you say, “I want to …”?

“I want to go to the gym more often.”

“I want to lose weight.”

“I want to get control over my schedule.

“I want to be more present with my family.”

“I want to get a new job.”

Choosing to “want to” can move us forward toward more desired outcomes when we are currently “not wanting to.”

It’s a step forward and it’s a beautiful way to allow yourself to explore the abundance of what you can create in your life.

But it can be easy to get stuck, allowing yourself to just want.

Wanting creates desire, a desire that may not be satisfied if you don’t actually take the steps to go after what you want. In this case, wanting can lead to disappointment.

Wanting may create short-lived results, as wanting is often associated with surface-level outcomes.

Example: “I want to go to the gym more.” How much more? For how long? How far does this mindset take you?

How can we reframe this then?


The Google definition of willingness: “ready, eager, or prepared to do something.”

It implies a deeper commitment.

Example: You may be willing to go to the gym too, but there is more energy behind the action – an indicator of aiming to create something greater: “I’m willing to create a healthy lifestyle.”

Willingness creates a feeling that is more expansive than just desire – to me, it creates a feeling of commitment.

When we have commitment, we are ready to take massive action. We are ready to redirect ourselves when we drift off course. We are open to seeing more possibilities of how we can achieve what we have set out to do. We have more self-confidence that we can remain in integrity. As a result, we see more sustained action, and results.

“I want to go to the gym more often” can become “I am willing to lead a healthy lifestyle.”

“I want to lose weight” is more powerfully captured in the statement “I am willing to honor my body by eating nutritious foods.”

“I want to get control over my schedule” on a deeper level means that “I am willing to stay in integrity with my priorities and values.”

“I want to be more present with my family” is more significant when stated as “I am willing to take responsibility for connecting with those in my life.”

“I want a new job” may create more transformation if restated as “I am willing to live to my fullest potential.”

  1. What are you currently wanting in your life?
  2. How is your “want” an indicator of a deeper commitment that you have?
  3. How can you reframe your “I want” statement into an “I’m willing to” statement?
  4. What is it exactly that you are willing to do to create the result you want?

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